A frustrating conversation
(09:34:33 PM) MK: hey
(09:35:16 PM) Gabi: Hi.
(09:35:22 PM) MK: cool
(09:35:30 PM) MK: you are in argentina ?
(09:35:43 PM) Gabi: Yes. Where are you?
(09:35:54 PM) MK: i m in california
(09:36:19 PM) MK: what time is it over there
(09:36:34 PM) Gabi: Ah. There's a big time difference at this time of year, I think.
(09:36:41 PM) Gabi: 9:30 PM.
(09:36:48 PM) MK: about 6 hours
(09:36:53 PM) MK: its 3:30 pm here
(09:37:12 PM) Gabi: I see.
(09:37:33 PM) MK: how you doing today
(09:37:49 PM) MK: how was your sunday
(09:38:07 PM) Gabi: Good, I haven't done anything serious today, which is unusual for me. And you?
(09:38:28 PM) MK: i got up late around 2
(09:38:42 PM) MK: last night was wild
(09:38:56 PM) Gabi: Oh. May I ask what you did last night?
(09:39:16 PM) MK: ofcourse we are friends now.. you can ask me anything
(09:39:35 PM) MK: well i was dead drunk... i hate that
(09:39:52 PM) MK: but if i go out to clubs.. i tend to drink a lot
(09:40:07 PM) MK: you know i hate it
(09:40:22 PM) MK: my new year resoultion was to stop drinking
(09:40:37 PM) Gabi: Then why do you do it?
(09:40:44 PM) MK: yesterday was the first time since new year i did
(09:40:54 PM) MK: i dint even drink on my bday
(09:41:32 PM) MK: it was my friends bday and you know...
(09:42:09 PM) MK: but now no more at least till june
(09:42:29 PM) MK: no bday till then :-)
(09:42:49 PM) Gabi: When is your birthday?
(09:42:57 PM) MK: it was on 3rd feb
(09:43:28 PM) Gabi: Ah. I had a classmate in primary school who was born on that day.
(09:44:02 PM) MK: you still in touch ?
(09:44:50 PM) Gabi: No, we had a big fight when we graduated and stopped talking to each other.
(09:45:16 PM) MK: ohh you dont seem to be the one who would intiate the fight
(09:45:22 PM) MK: initiate *
(09:46:02 PM) Gabi: She did say bad things about me to all my friends behind my back for at least 6 years.
(09:46:26 PM) Gabi: I tried to deny it until it became too obvious.
(09:46:38 PM) MK: ahh thatz bad..
(09:46:46 PM) MK: sometimes you just have to move on
(09:46:54 PM) Gabi: *Nods.*
(09:47:20 PM) MK: :-)
(09:47:24 PM) Gabi: :)
(09:47:43 PM) MK: you know i made 2 other resolutions
(09:47:51 PM) MK: for the new year
(09:47:57 PM) MK: to start learning guitar
(09:48:04 PM) MK: and learn spanish
(09:48:09 PM) MK: i m on the waiting list to learn guitar
(09:48:28 PM) MK: and by gods grace i found you
(09:48:39 PM) MK: will you teach me spanish
(09:50:12 PM) MK: are you still there ?
(09:51:58 PM) MK: well that was strange
(09:54:04 PM) Gabi: Sorry, I'm here now.
(09:54:15 PM) Gabi: And yes, I can help you with Spanish.
(09:54:29 PM) MK: are you busy ?
(09:54:39 PM) Gabi: The phone rang.
(09:55:03 PM) MK: oh ook
(09:55:18 PM) MK: tell me more about you
(09:55:52 PM) Gabi: What would you like to know?
(09:56:07 PM) MK: everything that you would like to tell me
(09:58:33 PM) MK: gabriela i guess you seem to be too busy
(09:58:37 PM) Gabi: Sorry.
(09:58:49 PM) MK: its alright, as long as you just lemme know
(09:59:27 PM) Gabi: It's OK. It's just... when I'm having a few conversations at once, it's hard to reply to the one with such a vague question hanging.
(10:00:42 PM) Gabi: I'm afraid I don't know how to answer that.
(10:01:03 PM) MK: i guess it becomes a little to confusing when you are talking to lot of people
(10:01:12 PM) MK: i tend to have 1 on 1 conversation
(10:01:26 PM) MK: thatz where you really get to know each other
(10:02:04 PM) Gabi: I think really getting to know each other is more a matter of time than anything else.
(10:02:09 PM) MK: but i guess you seem to have too many spanish students
(10:02:27 PM) Gabi: No, I don't have any.
(10:02:39 PM) MK: :-)
(10:02:50 PM) Gabi: I give people a hand when they ask, but that's not why I'm talking to everyone.
(10:03:30 PM) MK: of course it takes a time to know someone.. but unless you have a meaningful conversation it doesnt go forwards
(10:03:32 PM) MK: forward
(10:03:39 PM) Gabi: That's true.
(10:04:25 PM) MK: so what do you do
(10:05:04 PM) Gabi: I'm going for a PhD in computer science and I teach paradigms of programming languages at university.
(10:05:09 PM) Gabi: What about you?
(10:05:14 PM) MK: wow
(10:05:18 PM) MK: thatz amazing
(10:05:28 PM) MK: i thought you must be very intelligent
(10:05:59 PM) MK: i m an IT business analyst.. for a biotech
(10:06:22 PM) Gabi: Thanks. Er... what exactly does a biotech do?
(10:06:41 PM) MK: they research and develop new drugs
(10:06:56 PM) Gabi: Oh. Interesting.
(10:07:01 PM) MK: similar to phramaceutical companies
(10:07:54 PM) MK: i am on the IT side.. too bad in biology
(10:09:16 PM) Gabi: So do you write programs, maintain a server... or something else?
(10:09:39 PM) MK: no thatz too technical for me :-)...
(10:09:52 PM) MK: i am a business analyst
(10:10:18 PM) MK: attend meetings and play games on facebook
(10:10:22 PM) Gabi: XD
(10:10:31 PM) MK: whatz xd ?
(10:11:55 PM) Gabi: It's a smilie. A laughing face with closed eyes.
(10:12:10 PM) MK: oh i love that dimple on your face
(10:12:20 PM) MK: and you have very pretty eyes
(10:12:27 PM) MK: keep it open
(10:12:39 PM) Gabi: Are you talking about my Facebook profile picture?
(10:12:49 PM) MK: yeah
(10:12:54 PM) Gabi: Thanks.
(10:13:14 PM) MK: you welcome
(10:13:19 PM) MK: so you are a teacher
(10:13:50 PM) Gabi: Yes, I am.
(10:13:54 PM) MK: now how wonderful is that..
(10:14:12 PM) MK: i respect only 2 professions and teaching is one of them
(10:14:19 PM) MK: other being nursing
(10:14:39 PM) Gabi: It's great. It does have its drawbacks (a lot of work for very little pay), but it's very satisfying in other ways.
(10:14:57 PM) MK: thatz the reason i respect it.. its a nobel profession
(10:15:11 PM) MK: who can be more lucky than me though
(10:15:25 PM) MK: i wanna learn spanish.. you know spanish very well
(10:15:48 PM) MK: on top of that you are a teacher.. so you know the intricacies of teaching
(10:16:42 PM) MK: and to make it perfect.. your name is gabriela.. i always loved gabriela sabatini
(10:17:11 PM) Gabi: *Laughs.* That's funny. I'm not good at tennis, though.
(10:17:25 PM) MK: neither am i.. i just liked her
(10:17:55 PM) Gabi: Yes, I'm a teacher, but teaching a human language is not the same as teaching how to program computers. I can answer your questions, but I wouldn't know how to make a Spanish course from scratch.
(10:18:27 PM) MK: well whatz life without challenges
(10:19:00 PM) MK: perhaps this will be a nice challenge for you.. to teach spanish
(10:22:12 PM) MK: hellooooooooo
(10:22:20 PM) Gabi: That's "hola" in Spanish.
(10:22:47 PM) Gabi: But you can't hear me say it anyway. Do you know how letters are pronounced in Spanish?
(10:23:06 PM) MK: i have started a little bit online
(10:23:15 PM) MK: its pronounced ola
(10:23:33 PM) MK: but i tend to forget things
(10:24:08 PM) Gabi: Right. The h is always silent unless it's right after a c, in which case the 'ch' sounds like the 'ch' in 'church'.
(10:24:26 PM) MK: coool
(10:24:34 PM) MK: i will keep that in mind
(10:24:50 PM) MK: can we start our classes from tomm ??
(10:24:58 PM) MK: its a sunday.. fun day
(10:25:04 PM) MK: can we a little fun today
(10:25:34 PM) Gabi: OK, as you wish. It was your idea after all.
(10:25:55 PM) MK: please dont feel bad
(10:26:03 PM) MK: i was just being naughty
(10:26:31 PM) MK: tell me about argentina..
(10:28:39 PM) Gabi: It's a big country. It has a bit of everything.
(10:29:12 PM) MK: whatz the main tourist attraction
(10:30:41 PM) Gabi: I don't know what the main one is. Buenos Aires has many attractions, and there's also the Iguazu Falls, many places in the Patagonia, the desert in San Juan, the jungle and colorful mountains in the northwest...
(10:31:01 PM) MK: where are you from..
(10:31:11 PM) Gabi: I'm from Buenos Aires.
(10:31:37 PM) MK: ahh thatz good .. so if i come to argentina.. i have a guide for buenos aires
(10:32:09 PM) Gabi: I could try.
(10:32:25 PM) MK: :-))
(10:32:43 PM) Gabi: What are you laughing at?
(10:32:51 PM) MK: you said i could try
(10:33:01 PM) Gabi: How is that funny?
(10:33:40 PM) MK: well if you would come to california.. i would definitely be your guide
(10:34:01 PM) MK: i wouldnt have to try
(10:34:13 PM) Gabi: Not everyone is a born tour guide.
(10:34:23 PM) Gabi: You're being quite rude, you know.
(10:34:34 PM) MK: i m really sorry
(10:34:41 PM) MK: i did not mean to be rude
(10:34:48 PM) MK: in anyway
(10:34:56 PM) MK: perhaps itz just the format of chat
(10:35:13 PM) MK: one doesnt really see the real expression
(10:35:33 PM) Gabi: Well, I saw a :)).
(10:35:51 PM) MK: well it could have been :-)
(10:35:56 PM) MK: then it would be fine ?
(10:36:06 PM) Gabi: I think it would.
(10:36:13 PM) MK: but then
(10:36:35 PM) MK: everybody doesnt have a cute smile like yours
(10:36:45 PM) MK: sometimes people tend to over do it
(10:36:52 PM) MK: you must give them benefit of doubt
(10:37:26 PM) MK: dont judge them so soon
(10:37:28 PM) Gabi: That's why I told you you were being rude rather than insult you or block you.
(10:38:04 PM) MK: wow.. insulting and blocking is just too extreme
(10:38:13 PM) MK: atleast i feel it that way
(10:38:31 PM) MK: i think there is always some space for negotiations
(10:38:39 PM) Gabi: that woul;d be not giving you the benefit of doubt.
(10:38:47 PM) Gabi: *would
(10:39:28 PM) MK: i wouldnt even think of such extremes though
(10:41:10 PM) Gabi: Hey, it's not like I was talking about death threats or something. I was just making a point of what it would be like not to give you the benefit of doubt.
(10:41:36 PM) MK: but you scared me .... why would you even think of blocking me
(10:42:02 PM) MK: i felt there goes my spanish lessons and gabriela
(10:42:12 PM) Gabi: I'd try to explain for the third time, but if you haven't understood by now I don't think you will.
(10:42:22 PM) MK: :-)
(10:42:37 PM) MK: i m just playing with you..
(10:42:58 PM) Gabi: Are you? If that's the case it's not a kind of game I enjoy.
(10:43:17 PM) MK: well i was.. if you dont like it then i wont
(10:47:51 PM) MK: helllooo
(10:48:01 PM) Gabi: OK.
(10:48:18 PM) MK: thatz it ?
(10:49:13 PM) Gabi: What did you expect?
(10:49:39 PM) Gabi: Next time you can write the whole dialogue and I'l follow it, so as to not disappoint you.
(10:49:44 PM) MK: i dint expect anything.. do you really want to continue talking ?
(10:50:21 PM) Gabi: I'm not sure. It seems like you're criticizing everything I say and also the times when I don't say anything.
(10:50:35 PM) MK: Am i that bad ?
(10:51:21 PM) Gabi: Just scroll up and read through the conversation. You've been doing it all the time.
(10:51:35 PM) MK: i just told you my opinion.. you dont have to agree with me.. so do i.. that doesnt mean that i criticized you
(10:52:33 PM) MK: i never meant to insult you in anyway
(10:52:55 PM) MK: i m saying this to just clear it
(10:55:34 PM) Gabi: Not insult me, but you seemed to be complaining all the time.
(10:56:06 PM) MK: well dont you think its wrong to judge someone so soon
(10:57:11 PM) Gabi: I wasn't judging you, I only told you that you were being rude.
(10:57:24 PM) MK: i said sorry for that
(10:57:55 PM) Gabi: Anyway, everyone forms impressions of others all the time. Your actions affect other people's perception of you.
(10:58:45 PM) MK: well i will try and change you perception about me
(10:58:48 PM) Gabi: And you keep complaining about everything I say, and about every time I'm silent. If anything, that's you judging me.
(10:59:07 PM) Gabi: Just be yourself, but try to give me a break.
(10:59:57 PM) MK: :-)
(11:01:20 PM) MK: well alright lets just wipe it out.. i am sorry about being rude and judgemental about you
(11:02:39 PM) Gabi: Apology accepted. :)
(11:04:02 PM) MK: good
(11:04:17 PM) MK: so do you like travelling ?
(11:04:40 PM) Gabi: Yes, I do. And you?
(11:04:54 PM) MK: yeah me too..
(11:05:01 PM) MK: i want to visit so many places
(11:06:04 PM) Gabi: I like seeing many places, but above all I like being with people I care for, so I try to visit my friends and relatives who live far away whenever I can.
(11:06:31 PM) MK: thtz nice
(11:06:45 PM) MK: you seem to have big family
(11:07:31 PM) Gabi: I do, if I count my parents' cousins, second cousins, etc.
(11:07:40 PM) MK: :-)
(11:10:25 PM) MK: well i am done with your interview.. can we have a casual talk..
(11:10:54 PM) Gabi: That's what I thought we were having.
(11:11:30 PM) MK: i m done with the list of all the questions that i had
(11:12:06 PM) Gabi: Wow, and people say I am to structured!
(11:12:50 PM) Gabi: I've never thought of making a list of questions to ask someone I'm meeting for the first time. No offense meant.
(11:12:58 PM) MK: :-)
(11:13:05 PM) MK: do you believe everything i say ?
(11:13:38 PM) Gabi: It's hard to tell what's true and what isn't, considering I don't know you and I can't see your face, nor hear your voice.
(11:14:07 PM) MK: well like you said.. its just the first time
(11:15:06 PM) Gabi: Is MK your real name?
(11:15:36 PM) MK: yes
(11:17:33 PM) MK: well i m not an american
(11:17:39 PM) MK: been living here fro 5 years
(11:17:50 PM) MK: originally from india
(11:18:48 PM) MK: "Hola"
(11:19:30 PM) Gabi: Hola.
(11:19:59 PM) MK: i thought i lost you
(11:22:28 PM) MK: Buzz!!
(11:23:16 PM) Gabi: Buzz?
(11:23:32 PM) MK: Buzz!!
(11:23:40 PM) MK: thatz just to wake you up
(11:23:46 PM) Gabi: I was not asleep.
(11:24:08 PM) MK: :-)
(11:24:22 PM) MK: come on talk to me
(11:25:05 PM) Gabi: OK, what do you want to talk about?
(11:25:30 PM) MK: anything
(11:26:04 PM) MK: do friends need to have something to talk about ?
(11:26:20 PM) Gabi: Well, it's either that or not talk.
(11:26:32 PM) Gabi: And you seem to mind the latter.
(11:27:06 PM) MK: i wouldnt mind if you tell me.. not talk
(11:27:37 PM) MK: i guess you should atleast tell me.. i wouldnt have to wait
(11:28:13 PM) Gabi: I only talk if I have something to say.
(11:28:35 PM) Gabi: I'm not good at talking just to make some noise.
(11:29:26 PM) Gabi: If I'm silent it doesn't mean I don't want to talk to you anymore, it means I don't have anything to add to the conversation (either that or I'm away).
(11:30:00 PM) MK: wow you are clear about everything
(11:30:26 PM) MK: like the 1's and 0's in computer science
(11:30:29 PM) MK: true or false
(11:30:42 PM) Gabi: I just do my best for people to understand me.
(11:31:27 PM) Gabi: But you don't seem to want to understand me, it looks more like you're trying to annoy me.
(11:31:29 PM) MK: sometimes you dont need to try.. they will understand you and accept you
(11:31:37 PM) Gabi: Well, you don't.
(11:31:52 PM) MK: well, perhaps i am
(11:32:09 PM) MK: but i might just try to add some spice
(11:32:29 PM) Gabi: Then I think I might be done talking to you.
(11:32:39 PM) MK: alright
(11:32:44 PM) MK: if thatz what you want
(11:33:36 PM) Gabi: Yes, I've already told you I don't like that kind of game, but you insist on criticizing me and making fun of me, so I've had enough.
(11:34:12 PM) MK: alright Gabriela..
(11:34:25 PM) MK: it was really nice meeting and talking to you..
(11:34:49 PM) MK: i m sorry if i insulted you or you felt really bad about something
(11:35:09 PM) MK: i never meant it
(11:35:18 PM) MK: you take care of yourself
(11:35:24 PM) Gabi: You too. Goodbye.
*Sighs.* I still don't know what this person really wanted, nor which parts of the conversation were jokes or lies. Does anyone?